And not in the fun haunting ghost way. A few months ago, I wanted to send a message to a friend. I hadn’t talked to her in a while so I wanted to catch up and I wanted her advice on a professional issue. Popped into my Facebook messages and I wasn’t pulling up her name. Strange, I thought. But I decided that she probably took a break from all the social media insanity. Seemed logical. So I sent a message to her business page. A few days later, after no response and seeing she hadn’t read it, I decided to go another route and pulled her up on LinkedIn. Sent her the message there. But, I noticed we weren’t even connected. That was weird too – I thought for sure we were.
I did a little more investigating and found that she was still, indeed, on Facebook, I just couldn’t see her because SHE BLOCKED ME! Wha????!!!! Why??? I was shocked and had no idea why this happened. We weren’t SUPER close but had connected pretty quickly. We chatted about starting our own businesses, our goals, the universe, our pets and loved ones. She even said that she thought we had manifested each other – to provide the other with motivation and inspiration. And now, none of that mattered?
I honestly still have no idea what happened. I don’t know if I said something that offended her. I don’t talk politics or get into heated debates on social media (I just don’t want to invite that negativity into my life). So, at first I felt hurt and took it personally. I even dreamed about calling her and asking her. Oftentimes, my anxieties manifest in my dreams. I sent her another message just asking for an explanation. I deserved that much, right?
But then I meditated on it, I asked for guidance, and I got very quiet to listen to myself. Do you know what I heard? Let it be. Just let it be. She doesn’t owe me an explanation. She doesn’t owe me anything. I started out not understanding why this was happening TO ME. After hearing those words, Let It Be, I realized something. This isn’t something that’s happening to me. Maybe this is something that’s happening to her.
I can understand and appreciate that life takes us in all sorts of directions. Her feelings and opinions of me are none of my business. I do wish her all the best in life and I am hopeful that someday, we’ll cross paths again. In the meantime, I’m grateful every day for the abundance of friends I have and the new connections I continue to make.
Please remember, sometimes things aren’t happening to you. They’re happening to someone else. Let it be, my friends.